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My husband and I just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary, and have been together for 14 years. Throughout our relationship, I have always tried to keep in mind that my husband, as mild mannered and amicable as he might be - needs to feel wanted and needed as much as I do….I’m just way more vocal about it (along with everything else).
As much as I have tried to keep this in mind over the past 14 years, it has been difficult and perhaps fallen by the wayside over the last five or…since we had kids. Every once in a while, I have these moments of tremendous, stop in your tracks, lose my breath love for my husband. These moments usually come while in yoga class or during a massage, times when I have a moment to clear all of the garbage of my head and am just left with what matters. I try to hold onto these feelings of love for as long as I can, or at least until I see him and can hug him and say “thank you” and “I love you”….and then end scene….a kid stubs their toe, spills their milk or can’t find their socks.
On one of these “burst of love” occasions, I decided to take the initiative and get a little frisky, during which time I noticed something about my husband that I had never really noticed during any of the other times we had been intimate, and that was……he missed me touching him. There was something about the way he sounded and interacted with me that made me both happy and sad. Happy that he felt the way that he did, sad because it made me realize that it had been a long time since I had initiated anything sexual with him, and therefore going against my practice of showing him that I need and want him.
I have talked to many of my girlfriends about finding the balance in our relationships, finding that perfect amount of give and take that really seems impossible sometimes. From this recent experience I had with my husband, the best I can say right now is try not to forget about each other. Take the time to see and listen to each other as more than each other’s parenting partner for a few minutes as often as you can. Take a minute to enjoy yourselves like you used to.